I Started Winning When I Stopped CompetingFebruary 19, 2020
Love isn’t supposed to HURTFebruary 21, 2020
… I don’t have all the answers in life, and I’m definitely not gonna act like I do, but the one thing that I know for sure is I can’t choose who I’m supposed to be kind to and who I’m supposed to show love to and who I’m not, because isn’t that the mission ? I wanted to write about something that has been weighing heavy on my heart as a Christian. Homosexuality in the Church. Let me start out with I am not a pastor I am not teaching Theology, I am a simple believer in a small town just wanting to spread some love. If we break down homosexuality between church and the secular world, I believe starting out with both groups having a basic understanding of one another as much as possible. For this blog I interviewed a class mate from many years ago, Chad Peacock. It takes a good foundation of communication to bridge the gap of misunderstanding. The secular world tends to believe that “Most Christians” are “Homophobic” as it is said in the secular world. I spoke with Chad who lived in St. Augustine for over sixteen years. Chad is breaking barriers and an advocate for his community in Lee County, Alabama. He is the Founder and President at Pride on the Plains for over three years now. Chad has accomplished many achievements but to name a few; has Established the First Pride Parade/Festival, Helped the city raise Municipal Equality Index score and serves on the City of Auburn Diversity and Inclusion task force. I started the interview for this topic just honestly us laughing and catching up on life, marriages, and children.
I began asking him “What do you feel most judged about? He said he is judged because he is gay. He said “It doesn’t matter how kind I am. I could give the shirt off my back, even as a Christian, I am still judged, I am judged without people evening knowing me.”
The most fundamental of all church teachings about homosexuals is this: God loves them. They are beloved children of God, created by God and in need of God’s loving care and mercy- as all of us are. I attend a church that accepts and embraces all walks of life. I see the church as a hospital for the broken; we are all in need of His grace and thank God for His unfailing love. Infact moreover in his public ministry Jesus continually reached out to those who felt ignored, excluded or marginalized, which many gays do. In fact, gays are probably the most marginalized group in the church today, and so I believe that Christ loves them with a special love.
When it comes to gays the Gospel values of love, mercy and compassion are the building blocks of all church teaching. I asked Chad “Do you feel accepted in society?” He responded “Yes, but with the stipulation I surround myself with people who know me, it’s rare I would put myself in a position where people would judge me even though I know there are people who would.” “Do you feel accepted by other Christians?” he responded “Minority yes, majority no. Christians who truly love with an open heart yes, Christians who refuse to see that way of thinking no. Christians that practice God is love yes. Who decides how Christian you are?”
I teared up. My heart was broken; He was so calm in his answers, my heart was crying out trying to make it through these questions. I could also hear the pain in his voice as well. When did we stop loving one another… Ephesians 4:2: “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” 1 Peter 4:8: “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” John 15:12: “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.”
“If you could tell the reader something you would want them to know” he said “I want them to know, that I love God just as much as they do. I’m in a loving monogamous marriage of 5 years, together 10 years. I respect and love my spouse just as much as any heterosexual person loves their spouse. I am just as much a contributing member to society, I am a community advocate, I serve my city and people and love every day of it.” I asked, “If you could change one thing about society?” he responded “I just wish people could get past this perception they have and judgment against homosexuals.”
It really bothered me. When did being gay and not openly criticizing their lifestyles did we fall into religious misconduct? Why is it that we must be condoning of gays to fall in the category of “True Christians” in the world’s eye and if we do not then we are false Christians or Radicals? We don’t need to condone we are simply commanded to love. Modern American Christians, however, often make little room for wrestling. Christian pastors, authors, college professors, and even musicians are required by their audiences to have clearly defined and articulated positions on every major issue du jour—especially when it comes to culture-war flash points such as gay relationships and marriage.
Since when do we stop loving all people. Whether you’re gay or straight we are to love you. How about we stop putting so much pressure on our Pastors, authors, teachers and churches? How about we take the log out of our own eye and focus on our hearts? Matthew 7:5
Today, however, we live in the age of the internet and the age of individualism. Decisions about major issues are made quickly and, too often, in isolation. People may decide their views over the span of seven-minute cable-news segments, even regarding complex topics with far-reaching consequences. One might think that having serious dialogue about important theological and political issues—and hearing the testimonies of those directly affected by them—would be laudable. But not in this moment, not on this issue, not me. We are all kingdom people.